Fear-Setting as Described by Tim Ferriss

I did not originally write this post, I got it from a website of my friend’s.  I wish I could name this friend, but this person wishes to remain anonymous

  1. Turn your paper to the side. You will be writing on a horizontal piece of paper (If it were folded in half in grade school, it would be called hot-dog style.) Write down an important decision that you’ve been avoiding at the top of the paper.
    1. This can be anything: moving, traveling, starting a company, asking for a promotion, choosing a college, choosing something beyond college, starting or quitting a job, beginning or ending a relationship, etc.
    2. It just has to be meaningful to you.
  2. Divide your paper into three columns of equal size below your written scenario.
    1. In the first column, write down everything that could go wrong. Go into detail; really try to think about the worst things that could possibly happen.
    2. List at least ten things.
  3. In the second column, write down all the things you could do to minimize the worst case scenario happening.
    1. Write each preventative method specifically for the case beside it.
  4. In the third column, write what you can do to try to get back to where you were before you made the decision if everything goes wrong.
    1. Continue to write a plan which coincides with the specific scenario from the first column, and the preventative method from the second column.
“Nebulas fear is what keeps people from taking steps they’re fully capable of taking. When you do fear setting exercises, and you get really specific on your fears, you rob them of their power.” -Tim Ferriss
Below is an excerpt from one of Tim Ferriss’s book: Tools of Titans. I would also recommend The Four Hour Work Week. Just a heads up, your work week won’t be four hours in the beginning. I’ll let you read the book to find out everything else.
He had realized something while arcing in slow circles toward the earth—risks weren’t that scary once you took them. His colleagues told him what he expected to hear: He was throwing it all away. He was an attorney on his way to the top—what the hell did he want?
Hans didn’t know exactly what he wanted, but he had tasted it.
On the other hand, he did know what bored him to tears, and he was done with it. No more passing days as the living dead, no more dinners where his colleagues compared cars, riding on the sugar high of a new BMW purchase until someone bought a more expensive Mercedes. It was over.
Immediately, a strange shift began—Hans felt, for the first time in a long time, at peace with himself and what he was doing. He had always been terrified of plane turbulence as if he might die with the best inside of him, but now he could fly through a violent storm sleeping like a baby. Strange indeed.
More than a year later, he was still getting unsolicited job offers from law firms, but by then had started Nexus Surf,5 a premier surf adventure company based in the tropical paradise of Florianopolis, Brazil. He had met his dream girl, a Carioca with caramel-colored skin named Tatiana, and spent most of his time relaxing under palm trees or treating clients to the best times of their lives.” – Tim Ferriss
I don’t know if you have every experienced a type of fear that can cause temporary life paralysis, but I have. It’s happened a few times; most of them occurred in college. What I mean by “life paralysis” is an inability to take a step in the right direction. Usually I can come up with several different directions in which to go. The problem is, I don’t know if any of them are right specifically for me and my goals. I still have plans A-Z, and then plans Aa-Zz to boot, but at the moment my favorite one is called, “become a Data Scientist.” It might be a really dumb idea, but I’ll find out soon enough. It’s something that would actually be possible for me to do with the one degree I {almost} have. I will probably stay in school for one more semester, though. Maybe it will take one more year, maybe more than one. Who knows; I sure wish I did.
Finding yourself in this situation is not fun. If you think it is fun, then maybe you should consider signing up for some scientific trials funded by the US government so we can safely learn how to recreate your insanely positive outlook on life. You would certainly be monetarily compensated for your time and effort 🙂. *Disclaimer* I don’t know where to find these trials, but I would start by looking at research infused academic institutions.
Try fear setting as a way to possibly solve your direction challenge. You may have to do this one plan at a time. I know that’s a daunting task, but I truly believe it will be worth it when you are finally able to come to a decision. Not just any decision, but one that you can sleep at night after making. You can be at peace, you can relax, and at last, you can move on with your life.
Please let me know if you can find who originally said the quote at the top:  “Direction is so much more important than speed.  Many are going nowhere fast.” The website at the bottom of the photo [not pictured] does not contain that information. http://zigziglarinternational.com/e… …Now in addition to a gazillion other tentative plans, I have a new mission in life. Go to an event similar to one listed on the aforementioned website: preferably one held somewhere hot, yet breezy, & sunny. It probably won’t be the Zig Ziglar International one specifically. A conference on drop shipping not taught by Anton, EcomFire hub, and Tropical MBA World Summit all sound promising. The problem is, you have to be successful BEFORE you can go to most of those events. Bummer.
Nevertheless, there’s always hope for the future, because,
Hope is the thing with feathers
that perches in the soul,
and sings the tune without the words,
and never stops at all,
and sweetest in the gale is heard;
and sore must be the storm
that could abash the little bird
that kept so many warm.” –Emily Dickinson.

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